It’s not a complicated process to keep a man happy. Here, you’ll learn simple (and free) gestures to show that you care.

By dating blogger Ryan Dodge for Glamour

Updated: May 7, 2009

#1: Touch His Arm

#2: Send Him a Random Text Message in Midday.

#3: Ask Him a Question About Something He Knows a Lot About

#4: Give Him a Very Specific Compliment

Telling a guy he’s funny, handsome, or smart is always appreciated, but the really

meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him. Something like “I love the way your face scrunches up when you’re doing the crossword puzzle” or “You have the most manly calves I’ve ever seen.”

#5: Send Him the Diary Entry You Wrote After Your First Date — or Write One Now

Bonus Tip:

Gentlemen, are you ready to start taking “The Pill”?

The time is rapidly approaching where the contraception question will include more male involvement besides the folded condom in your back pocket. Science has been working on equal opportunity birth control for sometime now, but thanks to some research spearheaded by China (who clearly has birth control issues) the “Man Pill” is no longer science fiction.

How will it work?

The pill or injection contains desogestrel, a synthetic hormone that is the main component in the female pill, as well as the male hormone testosterone. This combination blocks the production of sperm while maintaining male characteristics and sex drive. As with the female contraceptive pill, it must be taken daily.

Testosterone can inhibit sperm production. A study sponsored by the National Institute for Family Planning in Beijing China tested the experimental drug in a 1,000 men. In men ages 20 – 45, the injection of testosterone was about 99% effective. It’s reversible within 4-6 months, meaning sperm production would go back to normal. The study also noted that the drug was not as effective on Caucasian men verses Chinese men.

Too much testosterone messes with your prostate, which raises Cancer concerns. And sorry guys,  you’re not going to get any kind of anabolic steroid effect because of the shot. Nothing has been approved by the Food and Drug Administration, and the study in China didn’t focus on safety concerns, but I can hear the new line already,

 ”Don’t worry baby, I’m on the shot”

Source: National Institute for Family Planning: Beijing, China

By Amy Oino

We’ve all seen the movie scenes: a sweaty man, a scantily clad woman, breathing heavily, groping wildly, reaching for a jar of liquid honey. The man erotically pours it over his woman, and then very sensually licks it off. What they don’t show is the poor gal struggling to clean the sticky mess from her skin, hair and other tender areas after the act is over.

If you are in the mood for a tasty sexual treat, avoid the pastrami (à la George Costanza) and opt for the more sexy, yet practical, options like the following food fantasies you should openly bring to the bedroom.

Champagne

The sweet bubbles are a definite crowd-pleaser. Try pouring it over each other — not to the point of drenching your mattress, couch, office chair, etc. — and licking every drop off. If you are well-prepared, chill the champagne before your rendezvous so that when you hold the liquid in your mouth and tease her with your lips, she’ll feel the cool sensation. Women take note: Holding champagne in your mouth then taking your man’s member in your mouth could be disastrous! The bubbles in champagne might give great sensation elsewhere on the body, but you have to remember the head of the penis, particularly the area just below it, is extremely sensitive and exposing it directly to champagne can be quite painful.

Breath mints

This food fantasy, mint, creates a tingly, cooling sensation that is perfect for oral sex. Suck on a strong mint, and be sure to roll it around in your mouth, then dive right into oral sex. For extra-intense pleasure, you can actually use the mint to roll across the clitoris (or across your nether regions if you can handle the hot/cold sensation). Be aware that some mint is quite strong and can cause pain instead of pleasure. Tread lightly.

Chocolate sauce

Time to put a spin on an old classic: Chocolate sauce is always a food fantasy favorite, but it’s been done before. To change things up a bit, dip a paintbrush in chocolate sauce and draw a map on your body. Have your girl follow the path, hitting each of your hot spots as she journeys along. Add more chocolate to the areas you’d like her to focus on. In keeping with tradition, feel free to add in some whipped cream and a couple of cherries.

Juicy fruit

No, not the gum; please, no gum! Instead, grab a sweet, juicy orange, grapefruit, strawberry, peach or even a watermelon (in small pieces). Take a piece of fruit and gently rub it across her lips, neck and breasts. Licking the sweet juices is a treat for the libido and the taste buds. Making sure there is no sticky residue remaining is the best part — it will require harder sucking.

There are a few more food fantasies you’ll want to bring to the bedroom with your girl…

Hot and cold water

Switching back and forth between temperatures can really heat things up and is a great food fantasy addition to the bedroom. During oral sex, have your girl drink hot water and then give you a little mouth action. Then switch it up to ice cubes. You’ll love the sensation. Ice cubes around her nipples can also be an intense sensory experience for her.

Popsicles

This food fantasy is a great combination of fruit and ice: sweet, cold and delicious. Not that Popsicles should not be inserted anywhere — sugar in the Popsicles can cause bacteria to build up in women, leading to infections. Use them to trace over body parts or to make your tongue nice and cold for bodily exploration.

Veggies

Cucumbers and carrots can double as sex toys, but be careful. The veggies should be washed thoroughly to get rid of pesticides (which can cause severe irritation). You should also be aware that while very pleasurable if used appropriately, things could go terribly wrong. Pieces of veggies can break off after they have been inserted into the body. Searching for “leftovers” can be awkward, to say the least. The last thing you need is a trip to the ER to have said food fantasy items extracted.

food fantasy don’ts

• Do not use spicy foods like chili peppers or cayenne. You could be in for a world of hurt.
• Do not allow substances to get too close to the tip of your penis or inside your gal’s vaginal opening. Certain foods, especially those containing sugar, can cause bacteria buildup, leading to yeast infections and other irritations. Be sure to clean up properly.
• Do not double dip. Use squeeze bottles, when available. Dipping your fingers in and out of chocolate sauce containers can be a tad unsanitary.
• Do not use foods you are normally allergic to. It is just common sense.
• Do not fall asleep with food on or inside you.

foodie fun

Food fantasies are all about experimentation. Food can really spice up your sex life, but proceed with caution. Don’t dive right into an eight-course meal. Begin with something simple and go from there. Soon you’ll be a man that can satisfy any woman’s appetite.

You’d be a fool to think that she doesnt have friends. But worry not readers we’ve found an Article that our friend at ASKMen  tells us which kind of friends she keeps close and we give you their values to you and her.

5 Friends Every Woman Keeps Close

1. The wild friend from university

On the surface, your girlfriend’s wild gal pal from university appears to have nothing but an up side. She knows the bouncers for every bar in the city, she enjoys making out with random women and she never wears underwear. What could possibly go wrong with that? In a word: Everything. When she finally manages to pry your girlfriend free, she’ll try to teach her that monogamy is just another dirty word and that commitment is a sign of weakness. The key to surviving the wild friend from university is to never let her out of your sight. She might not appreciate your scrutiny, but just think of all the chicks you’ll get to watch her swap spit with.

Value to her: This friend every woman has can help your gal recharge her batteries with a carefree night of table dancing and tequila shots.
Value to you: Your girlfriend will be grateful she’s in a stable relationship the morning after.

2. The best friend they secretly hate

As sure as the sun rises in the east, every woman has a best friend they secretly despise. On the surface, they get along famously and are seldom apart, but as soon as they’re in separate rooms, they can’t stop bitching about each other. Everything this “friend” does rubs your girlfriend the wrong way — from the way she parts her hair right down to her new jacket, which incidentally is either 1) So last year’s style; 2) More expensive than anything you’ll ever be able to afford for her; or 3) Exactly the same jacket your girlfriend bought last Tuesday. Of course, she’d never say any of this to her face. After all, they’re best friends.

Value to her: Women love to gossip, and the best friend she secretly hates provides her with the ideal target for all of her pent-up venom.
Value to you: Getting your girlfriend worked up about her so-called friend can momentarily distract her from your own shortcomings.

3. The desperately single friend

Also known as “the fat friend,” the desperately single friend has gone dateless for at least two presidential administrations. Although essentially a decent person, this friend’s self-fixated, woe-is-me attitude has the potential to bring even the most raucous of celebrations to a painfully grinding halt. The bad news is that you never want to appear overly happy in her presence — the good news is that her sour attitude ensures you never will.

We’ve got more to dish on friends every woman has, and why they can be valuable to you…

4. The guy friend

Whether he’s a former flame or flamboyantly flaming, among the five friends every woman has is a guy friend, and chances are their tight-knit bond predates your relationship by at least a decade. He’s there for her when you’re not, and if you don’t play your cards right, he’ll make you look like the most insensitive knuckledragger on the face of the planet.

Value to her: One part sociologist and two parts zoologist, the guy friend can offer your gal insight into your often baffling behavior.
Value to you: Don’t feel like taking an intensive 10-week ballroom dancing class? No problem! The guy friend will gladly step in as a surrogate male companion while you sit at home balancing Cheetos on your ever-expanding belly.

5.The best friend

There is no driving a wedge between your girlfriend and her best friend. Chances are they’ve known each other since childhood, and for all you know, they may even have a suicide pact. Your girlfriend’s best friend is her true soul mate and confidante. She sends her greeting cards “just because,” and she’s been there through every single romantic encounter and emotional breakup. She knows things about you that you don’t even know yourself, and she knows secrets about your girlfriend that your girlfriend wouldn’t even reveal to her psychiatrist. This is precisely the companionship Aristotle had in mind when he said: “Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.”

Value to her: The best friend is the single most important female friend every woman has, next to her mother. She’s there for her through thick and thin, and she helps her with all of her most important — and many of her most trivial — life decisions.
Value to you: Your girlfriend’s best friend can be an excellent companion who can offer you startling insights into the female psyche. She can also end your courtship in the blink of an eye. If you want your relationship to last, it pays to keep your girlfriend close and her best friend even closer — no, not that close.

For more on this log on to ASKMEN here

Patriots Quarterback Tom Brady and top Victoria’s Secret supermodel Giselle Bündchen got married in a low key private ceremony in Santa Monica, Calif. on Thursday.

Brady,31, and Bündchen, 28, were wed shortly before 6pm at a church in Santa Monica. Bündchen donned a beautiful dress designed by Dolce & Gabbana.

This is the 1st marriage for both of them although Brady has a 1 year old son with his ex-girlfriend.

While there is no playbook for how to snag and keep a good woman, science has accumulated some helpful tips toward a successful romantic life designed to last well beyond Valentine’s Day.

1. Offer money, love and dependability

Gals want looks and smarts. While you men can’t control those two characteristics much, take heart: Money and character are also important to women. A study in December of more than 1,000 undergraduate students revealed women’s top mate characteristics were mutual attraction and love, dependable character, and emotional stability.

Quality time counts, too.

A survey of more than 5,000 U.S. couples published in the journal Social Forces in 2006 suggested women are happiest in their marriages when men show a high level of emotional engagement: expressing positive emotions; being attentive to their wives’ needs; and setting aside time for activities focused specifically on the relationship.

2. Practice saying “thank you”

When it comes to a committed relationship, spats about money and household chores top the list of sources for marital rancor. And research has shown women take on the lion’s share of laundry and such.

Listen up, guys: One simple way to keep a lady happy even while buried beneath chores is to say “thank you.”

Results from a study of both married couples and college students living with roommates revealed that people who felt appreciated by their partners had less resentment over lopsided house labor. Those who felt appreciated also showed higher satisfaction with their relationships compared with other study participants.

3. Don’t be jealous

The Brad Pitts of the world may be good for your relationship. Psychologists have found that after meeting an available, attractive guy, women are more likely to work to strengthen their current relationships. The study, published last year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, ran lab-based experiments of more than 700 college men and women.

In one experiment, women either met a single guy who flirted with them or an unavailable man who ignored them. Women who met the single guy were about 18 percent more likely to say they’d forgive their significant others for lying about the reason for canceling a date or other irritating behavior.

In a similar situation, men who met a hot, single woman were about 12 percent less likely than other men to forgive partners’ annoying behavior.

4. Leave aggression on the field

Women may dig guys roughing it up in a hockey game or other athletic competition. But when it comes to long-term romance, ladies would rather if their mates left such power punches on the ice (or other field), according to a study published in the December 2008 issue of the journal Personal Relationships.

Jeffrey Snyder, a doctoral candidate and evolutionary anthropologist at UCLA, and his colleagues found that women preferred men who relied on prestige, or certain skills and accomplishments, to get to the top, as opposed to men who used subtle aggressive behaviors to reach a powerful position – say, in a fraternity.

But don’t women go for “bad guys?” Not when it comes to long-term relationships. If that aggressive man isn’t flexible in his behavior, the result could be a domineering bully for a partner.

“If you have one individual that every time they disagree they get coercive and insist that their perspective is best, that their decision is final, and they’re going to get their way, that compromises the ability of individuals in a relationship to coordinate,” Snyder told LiveScience. “Basically what I’m talking about is inviting a jerk into your household.”

**For that critical #5 please check  out the rest of the article @ livescience.com by clicking here

by Lu Lu the Great

Strapped for cash? These romantic gestures are quick & easy ways to show love to that special lady in your life. It is often the small things that mean the most when it comes to expressing our feelings. Here are a few old-fashioned romantic gestures guaranteed to win her over–without breaking your budget. As always, the key lies in acting creative and thoughtful. So don’t wait too long! Try one of these romantic moves over the weekend and see what your special lady thinks…

1) Hold hands. Nothing makes a women feel more secure than her man holding her hand.

2) Take a walk together. Enjoy a nice day outside without the stress of driving!

3) Cook a special meal for her, even if you can’t cook. There’s nothing sexier than when a man tries to do something for his significant other even when he knows it may not turn out… perfect. Trust us, she will appreciate the effort!

4) Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier than usual. Why? To snuggle in the morning! Come on, you normally get up and stay in bed those extra minutes, anyway.  So turn over and snuggle!

5) Sleep naked together. There is nothing more relaxing, soothing and sexy than body-on -body warmth. And it saves on heat!

6) Mail a card to her home or office. Inside, write down the top 10 things you love about her. It will catch her off guard and make her blush.

7) Express yourself with words of appreciation for all the great things she does for you. A simple “Thank you, babe” goes a long way.

8.) Go out of your way to be romantic. That is romantic in itself. It makes a woman feel more appreciated.

9) A simple little escape- send her an email, text her, or tell her…”Let me help you escape your problems; give me 5 ways I can make this weekend relaxing….. There is only one rule, absolutely no worrying or stressing and lots of kisses and hugs!” and spend the weekend doing just that.

10) Make her breakfast in bed. Even if it’s just on the weekends after a busy week with work. Especially if she is making dinner for you every night of the week, this will put a big smile on her face. Food helps you reconnect on the mental level… so you have the energy to reconnect physically.

11) In the summertime, nothing compares to a trip to the beach–after hours. Avoid the 9 a.m. traffic, get there after dinner time (6-7pm) and enjoy a late dinner as the sun sets. When other beachgoers head home, find a nice spot by the water away from everyone and enjoy your own private beach.

12) Surprise her with a photo album filled with pictures of both of you. Any picture of any occasion will put a smile on her face.

13) Invite her to take a bath… not a shower.  Don’t be afraid to top this off with bubbles, champagne, candles, and maybe even a lil’ Barry White! There is nothing more soothing than to sit in hot water doing absolutely nothing but enjoying each other’s company.

14) Be a good listener. Listen and pay attention to her, including her venting sessions, happy thoughts, and the hidden clues that most men never find. Men, if you do this, you will understand that women don’t really need us to read their minds’–all the answers are right in front of you! Sometimes women talk about things that they might want, saw and liked, or just simply want to do–without having to ask.

15) Offer to help them with some chores! It frees up more time to spend together. Add some music and make it into a fun time. You will finish in half the time and have more time do other things not classified as “chores”…

16) Give an unrequested foot massage after a day in heels. Watch her squirm, enjoy, and then relax!

17) One word:  FOREPLAY. Literally… one word…

18) Write a love letter! Be romantic and have fun writing it. She will enjoy reading your thoughts on paper. If it’s good enough, she might even save the letter for years to come! And sure, it proves that you put in effort to reflect on your love for.

19) Turn an everyday dinner into spectacular occasion. Light, some candles… dim the lights… make it more intimate and special, then watch her swoon.

20) Make passionate love at least once a week! Its free isnt it?!

Don't be that corny guy.

OK the basis for this post is very simple. As I was coming home from work, I passed by a man who was attempting to talk to a girl and told her that “when I saw you wit your friends, I was like man, you were the best looking of them all, and I if I didn’t take that time to come over and talk to you, I knew I would’ve sorry.”

Now theres a couple things wrong with that besides the obvious. First, don’t compare a girl to her friends. You’re showing her that you went through all of them and decided that, through process of elimination, you settled on her specifically cause she looked good, BAD MOVE! Women want to know that they’re beautiful but don’t want to know thats how you picked them out of the crew right away. Use another approach which is entirely focused on her, as if you saw no one else but her.

Be genuine and Second, don’t imply that she should somehow be honored that you took the time to approach her, because if it wasn’t you, it’d be someone else. Often guys get it confused assuming they have the power in the beginning, which is in most cases wrong. She is in control especially if you went up to her, so the tip is to let her have that right but leverage it out by being sincere. Make use of the time while she’s listening to be real and honest. Don’t LIE!!

And third, Don’t say, “I knew I would’ve been sorry,” that shows a sign of desperation. You never want to seem desperate especially at your first encounter. If shes interested, she doesn’t need too much more incentive to like you. Often a sign of you seeming desperate is a turn off and may send off a warning signal as to why.

So I have scoured the internet for the worst of the worst lines and this has all lead me to the main topic at hand which is the “TOP 5 WORST PICKUP LINES, FOR GUYS!” Here they go:

Number 5:

“Hey girl, what’s up? Guess what? It’s your lucky day. Out of all the girls here, I picked you to talk to.”

~Wait! Did you really just say “Hey girl?” Like do I even have to tell you how wrong or feminine that sounds. You can do better than that. Please don’t ever let me hear another man say that to a woman in their approach. Now the rest of your line is just horrible! Women often don’t like to be compared especially right off the bat. And never make it seem like she she be honored by your presence. If you want her to feel honored actually try talking to her, be real about your words as they are all part of your first impression. A woman can sense what lies ahead by the second you open your mouth. Make sure your words count for something other than BS!

Number 4:

“Smile if you want to sleep with me.”

~LOL this one is creative, I have to admit, but i doubt neither she or you will be smiling after if she has any self-respect. I sense some pain coming from this one but that’s just my advice but feel free to try it and let me know how it turns out. I’d use this maybe when you’re closer or in a relationship.

Number 3:

“Can I buy you a drink, or would you rather have my wallet?”

~ Now did you really think that was gonna work? Honestly, smack yourself. What kind of an elitist line is this? I don’t even know how to comment on this. This line should be forgotten the second u think of it. I am predicting very lonely nights for anyone who even thinks of using this as pick up. This has 0 creativity, & 0 humor. This should be used as an example to poke fun at someone else who used the line while you’re attempting a pick up. JUST HORRIBLE!

Number 2:

“Do you clean your clothes with windex? [awkward pause] Because I see myself in your pants”

~*Laughing* This is just too stupid to be this funny. I give credit to the creativity but I’m sorry because her pants isn’t the only place you’ll be seeing yourself in, try a hospital after she gives you a right hook. If you get anything other than a middle finger or a drink on your shirt, then chances are this is NOT the girl you want to be talking to if you understand what I mean. Just turn away, and RUN!!

Number 1:

“Pardon me miss, I seem to have lost my phone number, could I borrow yours?”

~This has to be the worst line ever used. Has this actually ever worked? I have seen this line used on almost every TV sitcom ever shown. You’re certainly not getting anywhere with this one. Being cute is one thing, but recycling lines from TV shows signs of non independence. It shows that you can’t think for yourself and most importantly shows her that she wasn’t important enough for you to think of a more creative approach.

SYN’s ADVICE:

Women are very unpredictable for the most part, so using lines that you haven’t given much thought to is a sure way to seeing her walk in the opposite direction. Men in general often take a wrong approach to talking to women, either out of fear of rejection or just overconfidence. Take your time pace yourself, if this is a woman you really see yourself liking, it doesn’t hurt to put a little thought into your approach. Women are attracted to men with a sense of creativity, humor, a little confidence about them. Do something out of the ordinary. Knowing that he is spontaneous makes her feel as if things would be exciting if she was to be with you. Be real. Surprising her with an unexpected gift certainly doesn’t hurt, as long as it fits the mood(NOTE: Don’t tell her when or where you got it from right away, kind of kills the mood). Show her some attention, let her know you’re interested.Compliment her and make her feel beautiful. Be confident about yourself, its OK to feel a little nervous, but keep your composure. Being persistent is OK but theres a fine line between persistence and annoying.

Let your guard down, be aware of your surroundings and make it clear you’re aware of the cliched approach your taking. But also make it clear you can handle her. And from there you’re on your own. Like I said Be real.

The Luxury car market might have just got an additional sales/marketing push. Researchers in Briton released finings for a study conducted by British psychologist, David Moxon. Moxon’s research found that the revving of a luxury car engine is sexually arousing to women. Moxon played records of multiple engines revving for 40 adults. The cars used ranged from Lamborghini’s and Maserati’s to Volkswagen Polo’s (the Polo is a Sub-compact not sold in the states, think Honda Civic). By measuring testosterone level changes based on the engines sounds Moxon found that 100% of the women had significant increases in testosterone and in turn sexual drive when listening to the larger engines, in contrast when they listened to the Polo engine they expirenced a decrease in testosterone levels.

-Leaves to garage to go rev A8 Engine-

You can read more about Moxon finds here

Editor’s note: Some links in this story lead to adult material and are not suitable for viewing at work. All links of this nature will be noted with “NSFW” after them.

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I’ve read recently that geeks make better lovers because they are so unaccustomed to romance that they will do anything for their mates. Also because geeks don’t have the social skills to cheat (wanna bet?).

Yeah, ha ha, let’s chuckle at the stereotypes. Might as well add that geeks won’t waste valuable relationship time watching football. Or that geeks are clueless and fashion-impaired and have the social skills of a bowl of fruit.

But you know what? Humorous Top-10 lists aside, geeks really do make the best lovers, for reasons that have nothing to do with adolescent ostracism or puppy-like devotion.

It’s all about sex-tech. (Tell us what you think below.)

Geeks build it so you will come

Second Life’s SexGen animation system, Red Light Center‘s (NSFW) beautiful sex animations and open-source teledildonics did not simply coalesce out of the mists during a marketing department meeting.

These projects require strong technical know-how along with an open-minded approach to sexual variation. After all, you can’t build sex-tech that serves only your own preferences if you expect others to use it. Especially if you want them to buy it.

That geeks have the passion to commit their technical skills to expanding sexual options for everyone is evidence enough of their enthusiasm and dedication as lovers.

Geeks get personal with tech

All engineers may be geeks, but not all geeks are engineers. Doesn’t matter. You don’t need to know how to build a platform in order to do a half-gainer in full pike with a twist into the river of love.

A geek is more likely to figure out how to customize toys and to design arousing environments for your avatars to play in than a non-geek. And that experience translates into a greater sensitivity to atmosphere and mood during sex — beyond lighting a candle.

Don’t be surprised if your geek lover puts more thought into arranging the boudoir than you do, or if common household items (“pervertibles”) soon take on a new dimension. More than one geek has told me that Home Depot is their favorite adult store.

Geeks dig consensual role playing

Geek lovers combine a well-developed and oft-exercised erotic imagination with their physical technique. It isn’t a big leap from “I’m a level-13 thief, evil-aligned” to “I’m the prison warden and you’re the new detainee.” Scientists and therapists alike claim that the brain is the most critical sexual organ; a geek’s familiarity with fantasy arouses your mind even as the handcuffs — or the bag of loot — bring your body to attention.

Geeks interact

A technophobe mostly talks to you in person, but a geek is happy to be with you by texting your phone, flirting with you in a chat room, Skyping you, Twittering just in case you’re on your vibrating couch (NSFW), sending funny cell-phone snapshots to your e-mail, playing online games, commenting on your blog, Digging articles that interest you, seducing you by instant message….

Geeks get things done

Geeks know all the shortcuts. They research your interests, send you surprise gifts, plan your perfect vacation, get the bills and grocery shopping out of the way, write to their mothers, and tease you mercilessly, all while pretending to work. And when you ask them to set up your home Wi-Fi or install a home theater, it’s done quickly, expertly and without complaint.

In other words, geeks know how to get everything else out of the way so there’s more time for lovemaking.

Geeks are hot …

… and wear the coolest glasses.

Geeks don’t shock easily

Geeks have seen all the porn you can imagine and then some, priming them to be open to your sexual peccadilloes. They are not only less likely to be shocked by your exotic requests — they might not even realize that other people think your turn-ons are exotic.

Conversely, your geek lover might be relieved that your wildest fantasy involves only two other people, five utensils and a trapeze.

Geeks know kinky people

Geeks haven’t just seen a variety of positions, kinks and fetishes in blue movies. They know (or are) people who enjoy those things, so they don’t dismiss entire categories of sexual interests as the sole province of a bunch of weirdos in San Francisco.

It’s hard to sustain prejudice and bias against an abstract group when you develop relationships with individuals and discover they’re just like you. It doesn’t matter if they dress up like ponies, or refuse to conform to a societal idea of gender norms, or eat pancakes for dinner. Geek lovers know better than to try to impose their sexual preferences or standards on others — including your friends — and are more likely to love and let love.

Geeks understand multi-dimensional relationships

Geeks connect with their online buddies in several guises, often getting to know the person behind the avatar as friendships deepen and move from adult communities to personal IM.

A geek can flow seamlessly between conversation about a friend’s partner and kids in one window and an elaborate group sex scene in another, without feeling any discontinuity between the personas. Even if the friend is a 43-year-old father of two in IM, and a 22-year-old dominatrix in the group.

With all that going on, a geek has no problem accepting that sometimes you want mocha ripple cherry fudge chunk swirl with almonds and a waffle and sometimes you want vanilla lite.

Geeks aren’t threatened by new tech or “the future of sex”

Geeks have read the science fiction. They know the dire predictions of a world in which the sticky press of flesh is replaced by neural nets and sex robots that also do housework (or is that house robots that also do sex work?).

Geeks have imagined more sexual dystopias than the average person and are the first to see the technological developments that could lead us down dark paths. Which only makes sense, considering who develops those technologies in the first place.

At the same time, geeks know better than anyone that something always goes wrong when you lean on machines for your social fulfillment. A geek doesn’t mind if you bring home the iiErotoTrix 5000 v3 — as long as you share it.

Literacy and the printing press did not replace sex; neither did photography, automobiles, video, online porn or 3-D escort services. Geek lovers spend enough time with technology to appreciate the unique wondrousness of human touch.

See you next Friday, Regina Lynn